I really feel for you, it’s such a difficult decision as to which doctor you see; we’ve had members who have seen 3 of the more ‘expert’ VES doctors & got slightly differing opinions from each of them…I wish that we could give you a definite answer! I only found a couple of posts by members about their ES surgeries, here’s links:
My ES Journey - General - Living with Eagle
Surgeon suggestion - Symptoms and Treatments / Doctor Information - Living with Eagle
There are lots about Dr Osborne, especially recently, but then there’s the cost issues… he does do video consults so if that’s easier for you with a toddler it might be worth a consultation?
Sending you a hug, & prayers for the right decision 
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